2014 as it was - Part 3 (final)

Well, cupid was rather busy for the year 2014.

In actual, myself contributed to it.
my tinder profile. now deleted liao







I installed............ Tinder.

 Yes, Chooi Leang was on Tinder last year! Swiping right to pretty girls only.

It was kinda a sucky apps, if you ask me.
And sucks at all level, if the intention is to find a long term partner there.

Long story short, I only meet-up with two girls from the apps, in which the second one didn't even surpass the first date.
It's like 30 mins into the conversation and we both know that we are going to not meet again,

While the first one, let's call her TG, is rather interesting.

On the first date, less than 2 hours into conversation, she brought up the most taboo topic for a first date : the ex-boyfriend.

While I should have just stopped there, but after knowing her stories, which is quite similar with my situation when I broke up with my ex, I developed sympathies to her.
Which subsequently developed into empathy and ended up liking her.


After rounds of dates for the next few months, I confessed to her.
She rejected with the answer "i'm not ready for a relationship but I'm hoping you can still continue to treat me the same". The more than friends less than a lover situation.


In other words : high level friendzoned.

Thinking back right now, I realized how naive I was, not to mention childish.
I thought if I gave more effort, she will be touched eventually.
After the rejection, she still responded to me, which i stepped into a #MacamYesTapiBukan situation.


After more and more effort being pumped in, and reward was not being seen, that's where I decided I need an ultimatum from her : move forward or move on.

Things turned out quite sour and ugly, in which she wrote this in her fb status.


Well, at least I managed to have a proper closure.

I learned a lot and really alot about myself and how I perceived relationships from this encounter.

In which I would summarize into following:

  1. When it is clearly an alarm/warning from the start, please bloody hell run away!
  2. When a girl is not interested, she is NOT interested.
    If she likes you, she won't give you all those excuses to not accept you simply because deep in her heart she had been waiting for it to happen!
  3. The depression/devastation/disappointment that you get from another person, is actually comes from you. It's because you put certain level of demand and expectation and it wasn't fulfilled hence the dejection. So adjust your demand and desire accordingly as your happiness is depending on it.
And that, concludes my 2014.

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